Wednesday, October 11th, 2017: To each his own, what lifestyle works for you

October 10, 2017

Warm-up:
10 pass throughs
10 figure 8’s
10 inch worms
5 goblet squats
10 good mornings
5 strict press
5 push press
5 push jerks

STRENGTH
Strict Press
5×3@85-95%
WOD
“Two to One Ratio”
For time: 18min cap
84 cal row
63 wall balls 20/14
400m run
42 SDHP 95/65
21 taters* 1.5/1

*A tater is a russian kb swing directly into a goblet squat
L1: 65/35
L2: 75/45

Blog:

LIFESTYLE SHAMING: MIND YOUR OWN DAMN BUSINESS

This has been bothering me for a while.

Almost every day I bring food to work. (They even got a microwave for me, which expands my options significantly.) I typically don’t even eat in the food room, I heat my stuff up and bring it over to my station as to not draw any attention. But, inevitably, people start to come over.

“What, is, THAT?” asks one of the guys with a look of total disgust.

Another wanders over a few minutes later with a hot dog in one hand. “You can’t eat this. It’s not part of your diet.”

And therein lies the ridiculously infuriating double standard that people who choose to eat healthy and prioritize exercise deal with every day: having to justify their choices.

Usually, I just laugh and shrug. Occasionally, I try to explain what I’m eating—which is usually some kind of Trifecta protein and veggies. “Chicken!? Brussels Sprouts?! Oooh!”

But lately I’ve started to wonder: why is it OK for people to comment on what I CHOOSE to put in my body?

I enjoy eating healthy – so keep your opinions to yourself

I would never, ever walk by the guy with the hot dog and say, ‘Hey man, you’re going to have a heart attack soon.’ Or approach someone eating a bologna sandwich with a look of disgust and ask what the hell they were thinking when they packed that.

It’s none of my business what they eat. It’s none of my business if the girl across the room isn’t eating meat or wants to cut carbs.

And the same goes for what I do in the gym.

WHY, THEN, IS IT OK TO INSTEAD CONSTANTLY COMMENT ON A PHYSIQUE THAT LOOKS DIFFERENT THAN YOUR OWN? WHY SHOULD PEOPLE WHO LIFT HEAVY OR WATCH WHAT THEY EAT BY TRACKING THEIR MACROS HAVE TO JUSTIFY THEIR CHOICES?

I have a friend who is an excellent powerlifter get her blood drawn last week at a routine check up. Most of the interaction between her and the lady taking her blood went like this:

Her: Wow, you’re really muscular
My friend: Thanks, I lift weights.
Her: I mean, you’re really, really big. Do you ever feel like you’re too big?
My friend: Um, no…?
Her: Do you ever do any cardio? To, you know, slim down when you feel like you’re too big?

Mind you the phlebotomist was well over 6 feet tall, so not a small woman! My friend can easily rep out 300-lb back squats and deadlift over 400 lb. She’s definitely not fat.

And, even if she was slightly overweight, we know it’s socially unacceptable to say to someone ‘Hey, you’re fat. Are you going to lose weight?’ Or, ‘You shouldn’t eat that. Have you seen your stomach?”

Why, then, is it OK to instead constantly comment on a physique that looks different than your own? Why should people who lift heavy or watch what they eat by tracking their macros have to justify their choices?

I have a friend who does IronMan competitions with her husband. They’re both rail thin. I would never say to them, ‘Good grief, your quads look small. Do you guys ever lift when you feel small?’

Why? Because they CHOOSE to run. They choose to do a sport that creates that physique.

IF ME BRINGING TURKEY PATTIES AND ASPARAGUS TO WORK OFFENDS YOU, MAYBE YOU NEED TO TAKE A STEP BACK AND EVALUATE YOUR OWN CHOICES, NOT MINE. I’M TOO BUSY TRYING TO GROW MY QUADS AND GET SOME DISCERNIBLE ABS TO GIVE A RATS ASS ABOUT WHAT YOU’RE EATING.

I don’t do cardio when I feel “too big.” I do it because it’s part of my program. I don’t feel inclined to sign up for a 50-miler and run all my muscle off. If I did, I would. And guess what? It wouldn’t be anyone’s problem but my own.

If you think women with muscles are manly, that’s your right. And if you want to comment on everyone’s physiques and nutrition so badly, please don’t stop there. Please go around and tell everyone on the next plane you’re on exactly what you think of their bodies. Then rummage through their bags and give them your opinion on their snacks, too. That will go over real well.

It is unbelievably hard to make real, long-term lifestyle changes. You shouldn’t have to justify it.

Maybe I’m not weird. Maybe you’re just rude.

If me bringing turkey patties and asparagus to work offends you, maybe you need to take a step back and evaluate your own choices, not mine. I’m too busy trying to grow my quads and get some discernible abs to give a rats ass about what you’re eating.

 

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